Marriage isnt just about love. No matter how deeply you love each other, if you havent thought things through, marriage could become the start of challenges rather than happiness. Before walking down the aisle, take a moment to ask yourselfAm I truly ready?
1. Can I spend the rest of my life with this person?
Marriage isnt just about planning a grand weddingits about sharing a life together for years to come. Maybe not forever, but long enough that every habit, every flaw, and every little thing about this person will be part of your daily reality. If just thinking about that future makes you unsure, it might be time to reflect again.
2. Are our life goals aligned?
One dreams of a quiet home in the countryside, while the other wants to travel the world freely. If your visions for the future are completely different, your life after marriage might not be as happy as you imagined. Talk openly about what you both want and see if there's a middle ground. If there isnt, ask yourselfWill this marriage truly work?
3. How do we handle conflicts?
Disagreements in a relationship might have been minorsilent treatments, sulking, then making up. But marriage comes with bigger challengesfinances, family issues, life pressures. If fights lead to running away or shutting down instead of working through problems together, marriage might not last. You need to know if this person will hold your hand through hard times, not just wait for problems to pass.
4. Have we talked about finances clearly?
Money is one of the biggest reasons couples struggle after marriage. Who will handle what expenses? How will responsibilities be shared? Are there debts or financial burdens that need to be managed? If the plan is to "figure it out later," those unresolved issues could turn into major problems down the line.
5. If one day I dont feel the same, will I still want to stay?
Love isnt constant. There will be moments of passion, moments of stillness, and even times when feelings dont seem as strong. If one day you wake up and dont feel the same love as before, will you still choose to stay? Because marriage isnt just about emotionsits about commitment, understanding, and choosing each other even on the days when the excitement fades.
Marriage isnt just about today or tomorrowits about a shared life ahead. Ask yourself these questions, answer them honestly, and then decide. Because when you're truly ready, marriage wont feel like something you have to work atit will be something you want to build together.